Full Spectrum Wellness Coaching https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com Sat, 22 Mar 2014 15:23:38 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.3.2 Are You Living a Feast or a Famine https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/10/are-you-living-a-feast-or-a-famine/ https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/10/are-you-living-a-feast-or-a-famine/#respond Sat, 10 Aug 2013 01:46:28 +0000 http://rohrscheib.net/sandbox-004/?p=216 auntiemameThe 1955 novel by Patrick Dennis that chronicles the madcap adventures of a boy, growing up as the ward of his deceased father’s eccentric sister, Auntie Mame, was a runaway best seller, setting records on the New York Times bestseller list, with more than two million copies in print during its initial publication. What was it about this book that captured the attention and of so many and continues to do so on Broadway and its latest release in September or 2001.

The character, Auntie Mame, based on his real-life aunt, Marian Tanner, is one of an unconventional individualist with a huge desire to live life to the fullest. In the story Mame lived during the loose and free roaring 20’s, through the challenges of the Great Depression and into a new era of social change. Despite her apparently care-free lifestyle, she embraced the opportunity to raise her orphaned nephew, Patrick, despite restrictions set up by the boy’s guardian.

She is thought to be eccentric and unconventional because of her colorful dress and an acerbic quip, her flamboyant style, and seemingly “devil may care” attitude. The real essence of her unconventionality was her authenticity. Her authentic self is expressed through her vibrancy and adventurous spirit, which she refuses to stifle to satisfy social norms or because of the ‘perceived’ outer appearances of lack or limitation around her. She is a true model of embracing the “all” of life – seeing possibility in everything – and never shying away from feeling and living fully because of what ‘might’ or ‘could’ or ‘did’ happen.

The lasting message of this wonderful novel and later musical, is to embrace everything life throws our way life – to never be afraid to try a new experiences and to keep an open mind about everything and everybody. As Mame so wisely says” life is banquet and most poor suckers are starving.” Mame understood that it’s not about what gets thrown at you, or even what you do with it that counts, it’s how you “be” with it. Part of what endears Mame to the audience is what she tries that doesn’t “succeed” in the eyes of the world around her. It’s not the outcome that’s important. It is always the integrity with her intuition, her instincts, and in the words of Joseph Campbell, “her bliss”. She understood that stepping fully into life is the true nourishment of the soul and the heart – and that is the secret of a happy and long life. Patrick Dennis’ real-life aunt lived to be close to 100 and reportedly died still looking forward to tomorrow.

In the early 1980s a study team from the University of California at San Francisco conducted a study of top level executives at the Bank of America and AT&Tto learn the effects of very high level stress experienced though what as then unprecedented times of deregulation and divestiture. 20% became ill during that time, and 5% of the group that became ill died. The “thrivers” saw life and the stressful change as achallenge to be met. “Ills” saw it as a problem, a threat, a nightmare. Thrivers had a commitment to taking a risk, getting involved. Thrivers felt that they were in control of their life, despite the circumstances. Ill’s felt Helpless, hopeless. Thrivers kept their sense of humor, about the world and themselves.

Regardless of what has been, who do you chose to be now? A “Thriver” or and “Ill” — someone who thrives at life’s banquet or starves?

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Keep Your Eye on the Ball https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/keep-your-eye-on-the-ball/ https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/keep-your-eye-on-the-ball/#respond Wed, 07 Aug 2013 11:47:46 +0000 http://rohrscheib.net/sandbox-004/?p=195 Have you ever tried to hit or catch a ball with your eyes closed? How’d that work out for you? Any serious ballplayer will tell that you must keep your eye on the ball. Why? Because when your eyes are on the ball, so is your bat. Physics, psychology and physiology all work together to line you and the ball up to make that connection.

Just for fun, try this little test. Line yourself up with a fixed point right where you are (like a picture on the wall or a doorway) and then identify another fixed point (marker) straight ahead of you that is far enough away that you would need to walk a minute or two to reach it. Now walk in a straight line towards that marker – keeping your head and eyes focused directly forward on the marker. Stop, notice where you are in relationship to the starting point and the end point. Now begin to walk towards that end point again, but this time turn your head all the way to the right and focus on something over there on the right. Really focus over there while you’re walking. Then stop. Now notice where are you in relationship to the end point? What are you lined up with now?

If you’re like most people – you will be somewhere between 30° and 90° to the right of the original end point. Why, because we literally tend to move towards what we are focused on. Well, of course, you might be saying – that’s not news.

The good news is – that it’s not news to you. The question is, are you paying attention to that simple fact? If you’re not, the bad news is you’re not lining up with the “ball” – or all the great things that you want to rendezvous with in your life. You are lining up with something, but probably not what you want!

It’s called the ’Law of Attraction’ and it’s a very simple universal principle that says everything draws to itself that which is like itself. You are like a living magnet. You move yourself towards and draw to yourself what you are focused on, whether it is wanted or unwanted. In this metaphor, your “eyes” are your mental point of focus and the “ball” is whatever you are focused on.

So where are you focused right now? Is it on what you don’t like about your job or your partner or where you are living, or how you look or feel or your bank statement? Or is it on what you want to create in your life – the people, health, wealth, or home you see for yourself? Are you focused on all the reasons why you can’t get from where you are to where you want to be? Are you stuck in the “good things only happen for other people” and “nothing ever changes for me” sand trap?

Well, you are not the one exception in the universe to the law of attraction! And that’s good news. Life is changing for you – if you’re seeing the same unwanted thing continuously – it’s just that you’re creating it over and over again – and getting very good at it!

You see, the Law of Attraction is neutral – like the law of gravity. Can you imagine gravity contemplating whether it’s better to keep you grounded on the earth or to let you float away into the astrosphere; or feeling guilty if you trip, fall to the ground and hurt yourself? Of course not! And the Law of Attraction doesn’t make a judgment about whether you draw to yourself what you don’t want or what you do want.

Are you ready to live consciously and create what you want? Try this little game. Pick something inconsequential to you but also outside of your ordinary experience, something you don’t see, or come into contact with everyday (for example, a city dweller in the middle of winter might pick ‘hummingbirds’). Think about whatever it is that you have chosen for the next week and notice whenever it shows up in some way in your life. At the end of the week tally up how many time it showed up in some way and now notice how you created that experience simply by your point of focus. Congratulate yourself for being such a brilliant creator!

Oh, “but that wasn’t anything important” you say….Well, are you ready to begin creating what is really important? Click here to move your life forward right now.

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Who has Your Life Caused You to Become? https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/who-has-your-life-caused-you-to-become/ https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/who-has-your-life-caused-you-to-become/#respond Wed, 07 Aug 2013 11:47:19 +0000 http://rohrscheib.net/sandbox-004/?p=193 As we move about in our day-to day-lives, observing and participating, we are constantly coming to conclusions about what our preferences are right now – what we like and what we don’t like – what we want and what we don’t want. When we are unhappy we want to be happy, when we don’t have enough money we want more money, when we are sick we want to be well, when we are unhappy in a job or with a partner we want to change the situation. We are always coming to new conclusions about what would make life better now – everything that is “becoming” in your life is coming as a result of your thoughts, preferences and choices right now.

That dissatisfaction isn’t a bad thing – it’s what propels us forward if we are willing to get out of our own way and go with it. Your life is like a river flowing towards the sea. You can never stand in the same river twice – because the molecules of water that were there a minute ago are gone now and there are always new molecules flowing through in the now moment.

The stronger your desires are in the now moment, the stronger your river is flowing. And the stronger your river is flowing the harder it is to try to buck the current. Can you imagine trying to run the rapids upstream – against the current!
Well, that’s just what you do when you resist being who life has caused you to become – who you are right now. You created who you are today on the shoulders of who you were yesterday. Today you are more than you were yesterday… and tomorrow you will be more than who you are today.

Are you resisting who your life has caused you to become – who your life is right now causing you to become?

How do you know if you are resisting or going with the flow that is you? You know by the way you feel! If you feel good, you are going with the flow. If you are cranky, ornery, bored, disinterested, restless, unhappy, you are resisting the flow…..You have a wonderful guidance system that is your emotions!

What’s the price you are paying for resisting your current? If you’re trying to paddle the rapids upstream you’re in for quite a fight. You’re not only fighting the river’s current, you are fighting the current moment (who you are right now this moment). You are fighting you.

How’s that going for you?

What would your life be like if you just let go and allowed yourself to go with the flow? What might be available to you if you allowed the current of your life to carry you? What would life look like from downstream and around the bend.

Are you willing to go with the flow? Click here to move your life forward right now

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Are You Taking a Daily Dose of Poison? https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/are-you-taking-a-daily-dose-of-poison/ https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/are-you-taking-a-daily-dose-of-poison/#respond Wed, 07 Aug 2013 11:46:44 +0000 http://rohrscheib.net/sandbox-004/?p=190 While driving to visit friends some time ago, I listened to a radio interview of Malachy McCourt and was deeply struck by his response to the interviewer’s question on his view of resentment. The interviewer noted that he did not appear to hold resentment towards others from his past or for difficult things that had happened to him throughout the course of his life. His response was that resentment was like taking poison and expecting someone else to die. The power of resentment and like emotions is enormous – ironically not on the object of our feelings – but on us.

Another teacher of mine speaks about the insidious nature of getting used to taking “emotional poison” – if you just take a little everyday, you don’t notice it so much – you adjust to feeling bad – and pretty soon feeling bad feels “normal”. When it becomes normal we see life through its lenses. What’s the color of resentment and anger and carrying grudges for you?

It’s like putting your hand on a hot stove over and over again until you get used to the pain. When we get very good at it we sometimes even “wear it” like a badge of honor – “I can stand the burn for up to an hour now!” When was the last time you spoke with pride about how long its been since you haven’t spoken to someone after they did ‘such and such’ to you?

Sometimes we have elaborate stories to justify taking this poison – the importance of keeping the resentment alive and well. We say “my father did it this way and his father before him.” “My family has always done it this way”. My own mother used to put little yellow stickies around the house so she would remember to be angry at me – even if she couldn’t remember why!

Are you taking a little poison everyday or learning how to keep your hand on the hot stove? Do you remember how it felt at first? How does it feel now?

What’s the price you are paying for taking a daily dose of poison? What is resentment (anger, grudge) doing to your health? To your relationships? To your well being? What would your best friend, wife or husband tell you its doing to you, if they were willing to tell you the truth?

What would your life be like if you gave up the resentment? What blocks might melt away in your life? What openings might become available?

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What Nut Are You Holding Onto? https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/what-nut-are-you-holding-onto/ https://fullspectrumwellnesscoaching.com/2013/08/07/what-nut-are-you-holding-onto/#respond Wed, 07 Aug 2013 11:46:09 +0000 http://rohrscheib.net/sandbox-004/?p=188 What Nut Are You Holding Onto?

At one time in the region that is now the Congo, the indigenous community hunted monkeys by attracting them to their irresistible favorite food, the nut. They put a nut in a gourd and carved a hole the size of a monkey’s hand in the side of the gourd. The hole was just large enough for the monkey to slip his hand through the hole to get to nut. But when the monkey grabbed the nut and held it fast in its fist, it could not remove its fist through the hole. What made this a sure-fire method for catching the monkey was that no matter what happened, the monkey just would not let go of that nut! All the monkey had to do was to let go of the nut to slip his hand back out of the gourd and climb to safety in the treetops – but those monkeys simply would not let go!

What “nut” are you holding on to? Is there an old pattern of belief that you are clinging onto that says you don’t deserve, or they won’t let you? What story do you keep telling yourself about why you can’t be the person you want to be or achieve the dreams you hold in your heart? What’s the little voice in the back of your head that tells you “don’t let go”?

What’s the price you’re paying for holding onto that nut? Is it a new job, a promotion, a new career path, a partner, a new home, living your passion – living a more fulfilling life? One thing that is sure, when you resist being the person your life has caused you to become, you are out of sync with yourself and you tear yourself apart.

How do you know if you are holding onto an old nut that causes you to be out of sync with the you that you have become or want to become? You know by the way you feel! Cranky, ornery, bored, disinterested, restless, unhappy…..You have a wonderful guidance system that is your emotions!

What would your life be like if you just let go of that nut? What might be available to you if you just let go of the nut you’re holding onto? Are you willing to be fully and truly who you are right now?

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